Is there a way that you can delete comments from your projects that you feel are sexually suggestive (or worse)? And is there a way that you can block the user from viewing your projects, and/or Burdastyle if the inappropriate behaviour continues?
I have one person that has commented on one of my posts and I find it sexually suggestive so have reported it, now it shows as inappropriate (can everyone see that I have marked as inappropriate or just me?). I notice it is not a once off from his activity, favouriting/commenting on things such as maids outfits etc. It makes me feel very nervous about posting further projects to BS for fear of perverts lurking around. There has to be someway that we can do this, otherwise this will just turn into a big cesspit for perverts to linger and make us feel unsafe.

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    Jan 25, 2010, 01.55 AMby sew4my3

    Oh this is not acceptable at all! Please let me know the links where these comments are and they will be taken care of ASAP. If this happens again, please mark as inappropriate and then let me know so that we can take care of such issues as quickly as possible.

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    Jan 28, 2010, 06.38 PMby alden

    I’m so sorry you feel this way, please personal message me with links/the users’ name and i will take care of this. It is unacceptable to not feel secure in this community

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    Feb 9, 2010, 10.29 PMby jen .ss1

    I received an obscene message from another member. Is there some way to block this person from contacting me?

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      Feb 10, 2010, 06.03 AMby thecuriouskiwi

      The BurdaStyle guys and girls are pretty busy, they might not see your post for a few days so I think you should message Alden and Sew4my3 directly from their members page about this (click on their names above) so that they can sort it out, if it is the same member hopefully they can remove them from the site or something. Best of luck.

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    Feb 10, 2010, 05.04 PMby amibambini

    Ooh, I feel a bit bad about this. I was the first poster that pointed out his creation title and opening picture was a bit wrong, and I had hoped that the outcome would be as wzrdreams had suggested, just a change of title and change of picture. When I checked back to see if it had been dealt with I was really surprised at the monkey picture and arrogant, vexed tone, I saw red and vented a feminist foot stomp in the comments. But then I realised I was getting mad at a website, so decided to take a deep breath, step away and get some perspective.

    Yes, the guy can be annoyingly insensitive to the fact that there are grandma’s and youngsters and conservative religious women all over this site, not to mention the huge bulk of women who have enough sexist crap in their lives that it’s the very last thing they want to see in their sewing community.

    But being irritating and a bit clueless is not enough reason to ban someone. He is an active member of the community and he supports sewers as Natasha says, plus it looks like he is having a hard time business wise over there, I don’t want to add to the guys woes by aiding him getting booted out of burdastye!

    I hope that as a fabulous community we can deal with this without getting bitchy and reactionary. It’s really easy in the weird-ether-space of online communications to run off at the mouth, but really, we are all here to make stuff, share our creations, learn and have fun right? I think that B wants to do that too, he just needs some guidance in the area of what doesn’t go down too well in a predominantly female, global audience.

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      Feb 10, 2010, 08.28 PMby ichigogirl

      Well spoken.

      I didn’t mind the first comments at all (yours was among them I think). When I read them I thought the message I wanted to leave had been posted already, so I refrained from posting anything, it wasn’t necessary.

      I think with this language/culture barrier the community would really benefit if we all tried to see the glass as half full rather than half empty.

      If someone who has been an active member (I’m not talking spammers here) posts something strange or offensive it’s probably a mistake.

      If you (not you AmiBambini, I mean you as “all of us”) look at something that is dubious in the worst way possible you WILL be offended, and the one who’s posted it will be offended by your reaction. If you look at it expecting the person behind it to be a good person you will see it as a mistake, and you can actually help the person who’s posted it to not make that mistake again.

      I believe in believing in the good in people, I believe that most people actually ARE good and that most often bad things are made by mistake or stem from misunderstandings (having said that, I DO make mistakes myself, sometimes bad ones, and I often react too fast and too stong, that I must add, but I do try not to! So please forgive me if I do ;-)….).

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    Feb 11, 2010, 12.27 AMby sew4my3

    We have received many comments on this subject and it is being handled.

    Reminder As stated before it is hard to tell what emotion the member is in their comments and post and these can be taken wrong way. I ask that all members please give each other the benefit of the doubt and not rush to insulting by name calling and insulting by what country you reside. This is a friendly community that has members from all over the world that have come together on a common interest in sewing. If we cannot get along here then how can we be an example to the people that represent our countries and show that it can be done. The best part about our community is getting to know people from other countries and realizing that we are not so different yet we are able to appreciate the differences we do have. Please do not let things get to this point and if you have an issue with something, the best thing to do here is contact one of the Burdastyle team directly and not engage in internet warfare with other members that is not becoming to anyone. Remember once it is written you have done the damage whether you meant to or not. I love the BurdaStyle community and as members we are all the backbone of the community. It is up to us to be the best representatives of our countries as possible. Thanks to all and lets get back to being creative. Keep sewing with a smile!

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    Feb 11, 2010, 11.18 AMby anajan

    Few comments of mine on the topic, but from a completely different example that happened on this very site about a year ago. The example I’m mentioning wasn’t even noticed by others:

    I come from Serbia, a small country that had have (well, it still has) huge political and economical problems. In recent history my country participated in few wars (it’s not a very flattering thing to say about your own country, I know). The already bad state in the country culminated with NATO bombing of Serbia in 1999. With no attention of offending anyone here, or pointing fingers to anybody, but for reasons of explaining the example I’m pointing out here, I have to add that many of western European countries and the USA are members of NATO. Hence, many Serbians have generally bad opinion of many citizens of the named countries. (Just to make it clear – I’m not one of these Serbians!)

    So, one girl, I believe she was from the States, posted a lovely project over here – a knitted sweater with the UK flag motif on it. Another girl, Serbian, posted a comment on that project, that was more political than related to the garment criticism. Personally, I found the comment very distasteful, and I thought that this site was no place for such statements. After all, the creator of the sweater wasn’t responsible for anything that happened between our countries!

    So, I contacted the Serbian girl via personal messages, asking her to remove the named comment, explaining the same things I wrote here now. She thanked me for the suggestion, removed the comment and explained that she only meant to make a joke. A non – harmful joke. And I believed her, I understood her joke. But, she oversaw the fact that we don’t share the same sense of humor world wide, as CarotteSauvage has pointed out already. Also, the language barrier makes things look worse than they were meant to be.

    The moral of my comment is that we should all keep in mind that not every bad action was made intentionally. In the case of B – he even explained later that the girl from the photos was his wife. The first few comments on the named project were suggestions, nicely put and no offensive. But I think many members lost their control somehow, and crucified the man without listening to him first…

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    Mar 22, 2010, 07.01 PMby ashchaser

    This has happened to me with an Obey scarf I posted last year, someone was COMPLETELY offended because they thought it was supposed to look like someone it definitely wasn’t. Either way I felt like I had been scolded after reading the comment, and the whole 5 months of slaving over that scarf didn’t really matter anymore because people take things too seriously… I am NOT political!!! Now every time I want to post something, I have to make sure it doesn’t have a face on it that just happens to vaguely resemble anyone else in the world, because that other random person might offend someone on here and then I will get berated. Which is the complete opposite reason I post projects to this site.

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      Mar 23, 2010, 05.37 AMby wackyblonde

      I looked at your scarf and really had no idea what he was talking about. Did it resemble a polictically charged person? I actually though it was a star wars character. What do I know..lol Oh and your scarf was amazing by the way, that type of knitting is very labour intensive.

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      Mar 26, 2010, 02.55 PMby ashchaser

      I seriously still don’t know whom it resembled, that person wouldn’t tell me! It is supposed to be Andre the Giant, and now that you mention it I do think it looks like a Star Wars character- anywho thank you for the compliment

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