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I am so disappointed It has always been the given that I would make my daughters wedding gown and bridesmaid dresses,now its coming close they are talking about getting one from china the type you send away the measurements and you get back a most fantastic gown for something like £80.00 how do you compete with that???I am really gutted.
(Not so) bubbley74

Feb 1, 2010, 08.09 AM by bubbley74

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  Feb 2, 2010, 03.48 AMby sew4my3

  Oh, I am so sorry. My daughters are 21 and I have given them the option of making their wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses or buying them when the time comes. It would be a great honor if they wanted me to make their dresses for them, but at the same time I would not be disappointed if they wanted to purchase one. With everything that goes in to a wedding I would still have plenty to do before the wedding. Your daughter may be thinking along those lines and just want mom to be able to relax and enjoy her special union. I have no doubt that your daughter is not buying the dress because she wants to be mean. Maybe if you talk to her and ask her what her reasons are for wanting to make the purchase of the dress, you might find that it is truly simple and out of love for her dear mum. Also, you could ask what other items she would like for you to work on, like table linens and chair covers etc… for the reception. Then explain to her that you have always dreamed of her special wedding day and what part you thought you would play. Sometimes daughters don’t realize how mothers dream of their daughters wedding day and just how special it is for us too. Stay calm and try to respect her choices. You will be able to look back on her wedding as a wonderful day instead of the heartbreak of not making her dress. Let me know how things play out and I wish you and your daughter the best.
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  Feb 3, 2010, 01.45 AMby misssylver

  From experience with my own wedding dress I can say that those services are completely rubbish. Mine was made for a very small girl with no cleavage which, frankly, I am not. On the other hand I can see where your daughter is coming from. She may feel that you have a lot on your plate helping her any way like Sew4 says.

  To be honest she’s lucky to have a mum that would want to make her a wedding dress! Keep us posted and don’t be down hearted. xx
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  Feb 3, 2010, 03.23 AMby katexxxxxx

  Sadly, all the dresses I have seen from this sort of service have been, um, ‘shoddy’ would fit the bill! Frankly it would be cheaper for you to make them, charging realistically for your time, than to send to China, be disappointed, and then spend more money getting them fixed or having decent stuff made anyway.
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  Feb 3, 2010, 03.54 AMby josephina

  I have heard similar feedback. A friend recently had to remake a dress which was brought in to her. It had been purchased online from China. It was a strapless, corset style dress which ‘fit’, but had no boning and consequently wouldn’t stay up.
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  Feb 3, 2010, 04.57 AMby michelleiswell

  my mom and i worked on my wedding dress and it was both wonderful and stressfull at the same time. I wouldn’t give up the expierence for the world, and she and i designed something that i would never find at a bridal shop or in China, HOWEVER, my mom was very stressed out (she didn’t show it) and i wished she could have spent more time with me on the ‘other’ side of the planning. perhaps your daughter wants to releive you of some of the work. You could make her a wonderful jacket, shrug or amazing coat to wear over the dress that she can dazzle with year round (you only get to wear a wedding dress once, unless you vacume in it like i do). She still loves you, even if you don’t slave away over your machine! I hope this helps.
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  Feb 3, 2010, 09.50 AMby bubbley74

  Thank you for all your support I know she wasn’t meaning to hurt or upset me but you know how it s you have one daughter and from the age of 6(slight exaggeration there) we have been talking of me making her dress I will be doing most of the flowers decorating and invites so enough to keep me occupied. Thank you for the advice on the mail order gowns from china they look so beautiful on the Internet too good to be true.Well now we know they are ,and have been spared spending money that can be put to use else were . We only have 1 material shop around where I live although you can buy any thing there and his material is to die for, its a little shop in Swansea and its like walking into a tardis. Its called mad mikes but i would love to visit some where different for a change any one living in this part of Wales know of any where worth visiting please.I am still going to keep hoping my daughter changes her mind but of course if she doesn’t I will make every one Else’s who will be going ha ha just joking thanks once again for cheering me up .Best of luck to you all .Bubbley74
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  Feb 19, 2010, 01.02 AMby creativexangst

  Oof da…my best friend wants me to make the bridesmaid dresses for everyone in her wedding party when it comes time-now THATS pressure. I couldnt imagine trying to make my (or anyone elses) wedding dress too! On another note, I want to know where this magical fairy land of amazing and cheap wedding dresses is…